23 Spiritualized Comfort Cliches to Avoid When a Child Dies

Caleb Wilde, shared the following post on his “Confessions of a Funeral Director” blog.  It is an anonymous post originally shared on Michelle Van Loon’s blog, “Pilgrim’s Road Trip,” and with his permission I am sharing it here.   This post is tremendously important, and should not be missed.   Having worked in both the[…]

What’s The Difference Between A Coffin and a Casket?

 Great question! The answer is:  Not much at the end of the day, as they are both boxes designed to hold and transport the dead.   Really, the primary difference comes down to shape. The word coffin dates back to about the 16th century.  It typically has six or eight sides, tapering down toward the feet.[…]

What the Heck is Coffin Furniture?

  I love the questions we get.  Not because the questions are laughable, but because they have to be asked because the funeral industry, in an effort to make things sound less ”morbid” or ”frightening” has gone a long way to make very simple things complicated.  Granted, maybe this particular one has more to do[…]

Do You Have to Purchase Your Casket From The Funeral Home?

  My last post generated some questions, as I had mentioned that my client ordered an eco-friendly casket from another provider.   It seems that people are surprised to hear this is a possibility.   It is, in fact, a right that is protected under the Funeral Rule. This rule states that you may order your casket  from[…]

The Conversation You Aren’t Having

Death is a somewhat taboo topic in our society, and this is in many ways unfortunate. Have you had a conversation about death with your loved ones?   If you haven’t done so, it can deeply impact your final days, cause you and your loved ones a lot of grief, and cost your estate a[…]

Why I Became a Mourning Doula

The following was posted as a guest post over at “Confessions of a Funeral Director”: I’ve been around death A LOT.   When I was 4 one of my playmates, a 5 y/o, died of an asthma attack.   They buried her and planted a tree at school in her memory.  I couldn’t wrap my[…]

Is Exploding Casket Syndrome For Real?

I’ve been asked on a number of occasions if caskets can really explode, or if this is just an urban legend.  Actually – and not so astonishingly when you think about it – it is true. Be forewarned, a somewhat graphic description follows.  If you have a weak stomach, or don’t want to think about[…]